Here are some things to consider doing. Some items may not be applicable to you.

Well before getting married:

  • Be aware that approx. half of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce

  • Be aware that approx. 1 million children in the U.S. are affected by divorce each year

  • Discuss the following about you and your prospective spouse:

    • Your goals and dreams
    • Where in the world, U.S., etc. you would like to live
    • Whether you would like to have children
    • How you would raise children, e.g., religion, discipline
  • Consider the financial implications of getting married, e.g., taxes, job benefits

If one of you has substantially more in assets than the other, and/or, if it is not the first marriage for either of you:

  • Consider a pre-nuptial agreement (be aware that suggesting a pre-nuptial agreement can create an atmosphere of mistrust, especially for a first marriage)

If you decide to have a pre-nuptial agreement:

  • Each of you should be represented by a separate attorney
  • Specify how assets will be handled in the event that one of you dies and the other gets remarried

After getting married:


  • Ensure you make time to talk and listen to each other
  • Ensure you have some time alone


Thanks for reading!